The Gift of Rainbow Babies
What is a Rainbow Baby?
A “rainbow baby” is a baby that is born following a miscarriage, stillbirth, neonatal death or infant loss.In the real world, a beautiful and bright rainbow follows a storm and gives hope of things getting better. The rainbow is more appreciated having just experienced the storm in comparison.
The storm (pregnancy loss) has already happened and nothing can change that experience. Storm-clouds might still be overhead as the family continue to cope with the loss, but something colorful and bright has emerged from the darkness and misery.
A rainbow baby brings light but by no means replaces the angel baby.
Those who have not experienced a stillbirth or loss sometimes assume a rainbow baby ‘cures’ the parents and is some sort of closure. We firmly believe that not to be true as they by no means eliminate the storm and the rainbow wouldn’t be here without it.
Women who have experienced pregnancy and infant loss often feel as if their stories are hard to share due to the unspoken taboo surrounding their loss. This silence can leave mothers feeling alone and misunderstood. As a mother who has experienced three pregnancy losses and is currently pregnant with another rainbow baby, I understand those feelings all too well.
After pregnancy and infant loss, becoming pregnant again is simultaneously amazing and scary in a way that only a mother carrying a rainbow baby can truly understand. But a rainbow baby can never take the place of their older sibling or fill the void created when a parent experiences a loss. A pregnancy after loss makes those two pink lines on the tiny stick so incredibly different in both positive and negative ways.